This is the first book I picked up for my me time. And it got right to the heart of the matter. I’ve had trouble putting it down.
Two things have stood out during my first several chapters that I thought were worth sharing. Specifically from the personal finance perspective.
Stop picking at the scab (Chapter 4)
We all fall down. We all fail. And for some of us, raises my hand, we do it ALOT. But if we keep revisiting the same fall and failures, how do we heal and how do we recover. Telling the same story over and over again keeps you in that headspace, just continues the victim mentality.
So yes, the story of our falls and failures are something to share. It’s a way to connect with others and communicate that they are not alone. But these are also experiences we need to leave in the past, learn from them and move past. Don’t stay stuck. I am very, very guilty of staying stuck. And thus repeating mistakes. Especially on the personal finance front.
Sidenote: the Bible often refers to God’s forgive and forgetfulness of our sins. I found the author’s perspective on that really interesting.
Do you want to heal
This is a Bible / faith based book, so most of the stories refer to Biblical examples. This example just hit home.
Jesus was known for healing people. In John 5:6 he asks a cripple, “do you want to get well?”
I never thought about that question before. We all dream of being rich or the if only scenarios that we believe we solve all our problems. If I had a better job, all my stress would go away. If I made more money, these headaches would go away. You get what I’m saying.
But how often do we want to be “healed” but don’t consider all that that healing will cost. For the cripple, he would have to stop begging, get a job and learn to be a productive member of society rather than laying around by these “springs” all day. He would lose the sympathy that being a cripple provoked in others.
What does our “healing” cost? What do we have to give up to be healed?
Do you see where I’m going here…a few years ago, I got one of those “healings” and got a great new corporate job with all the benefits, good salary, stability, etc. All the things I thought I wanted, that I thought would solve my problems and heartaches and headaches.
And don’t get me wrong, for the most part, it did “heal” me. But on the flip side, I had to give up my freedom. I learn to deal (not very well) with a super charge political climate that I had no experience with and no stomach for.
As you consider what will “heal” you, also consider the cost, the trade, and in the end is it worth it?
Hope is a digital marketing manager and foster/adoptive single mom to five kids. She has run her own consulting company for over 15 years and took a leap of faith returning to the corporate world in 2021 to a job and team she loves! Hope began sharing her journey with the BAD community in the Spring of 2015 and feels like she has finally mastered the balance between family first and wise financial decisions.